Pastor’s Support Women in Combat – Female Combatant Series

This series is to answer the objections that people have to support the unBiblical and ungodly notion that it is acceptable for women to be in the military and police force. This series is, in fact, the first chapter of my new and upcoming book.

5. But if my pastor, husband, and father is o.k. with it, then what is wrong?

As Father’s Day approaches us it is reminder to us of how much our father’s have done for us. We show our appreciation and tell our dad’s that they are the best in the world. There are those though who don’t have earthly fathers and those who have fathers who don’t care about them. On one hand this is extremely sad but on the other hand, for those who are Christ followers, we have a heavenly Father who has adopted us as sons and daughters. We are grafted into his family and to that I am overwhelmed with gratitude to our Abba Father.

Moving on to the question at hand, “But if my pastor, husband, and father is o.k. with it, then what is wrong?” The Word of God is over flowing with verses regarding counsel. It is Biblical to go and seek godly, wise counsel and to heed a wise person’s counsel (Ps 1:1-2, Prov 1:8, 1 Pet. 5). These people could and should be our pastors, husband (if we are a wife), and fathers. This question must make us stop and think about who we have in our counseling circles and what kind of counsel they are giving us. Are they Christ followers? Do they know the Bible well enough to know what the Bible says regarding certain topics? Are they people pleasers? These questions are tough to answer even if we know the person very well. You might raise an eyebrow to being wary of a people pleaser. If the one who is giving you counsel is a people pleaser, they will tell you what you really want to hear. This is not loving and could lead to dangerous paths.

A father in particular must not be a “people pleaser” with his children. He must do what is the most loving and what is best for his children. In the children’s eyes this could be seen as too harsh and unloving, but the father who is wiser, more experienced in life, and the one who is responsible must do what is right for the child. Even if it means that the child will not like the result.

It seems apparent to me that between mothers and fathers, the fathers have the most influence over the child. We see the statistics on fatherless homes and the rate at which the children rise and fall and this is just one of many indicators of the father’s influence. I am a woman and growing up, my dad (over my mom) was the one I wanted to make proud. Not that I didn’t want to make my mom proud…I just wanted my dad’s approval more. I believe there is nothing wrong with this and the main reason I believe this is because God made us this way. God places the responsibilities on fathers to lead the family. It only makes sense that the father has more influence over children.

This brings me to a very important point. Fathers have the power to sway their children. In regards to sin and disobeying Scripture, when it speaks much too clearly to ignore (regarding the ungodliness of women in combat) it would be wise to search out the scriptures on your own (Acts 17:11) and challenge your wise counsel. To answer the question, ““But if my pastor, husband, and father is o.k. with it, then what is wrong?” If the Bible is clearly against what the counselor says is acceptable and pleasing to God, then I would suggest not going to that individual for counsel: even if it is your pastor, father, or husband. It would be best to respectfully disagree and obey what the Word of God says to do.

Many blessings to you fathers and to the to-be fathers out there! You have so much influence over your children. Raise them up in the Lord. Teach them His truths. Invest in your children’s life.

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