I remember from my earliest memories my wonderful mother curling my hair and picking out these princess-like dresses for me to wear for school….I would have rather been outside playing with my brother and cousin in military fatigues with my face painted green, black, and brown. I shook my fist at being girly and feminine. My childhood dream was to join the military. I loved the environment (or my imagination of that environment).
I ended up joining the military. Taking an oath to protect and obey orders. I began my year long training by going to basic training. I was given uniforms….oh wait, the man behind me got the same ones. There were three different articles of clothing in the main uniform that were different. I wore sports bras–the men did not. I wore granny panties–the men wore briefs. I wore women’s running shoes–the men wore theirs. Besides my haircut and buttocks, you couldn’t tell which gender I was. I wore the same uniform, exercised the same way, and was treated the same as the men in the unit. I did this for months while in training. No civilian clothes. No differentiation besides menstrual cycles and different sleeping quarters. I couldn’t stand it. I couldn’t wait until I could put dress on….to feel beautiful….to not look and expected to act like a man.
The day came where I could leave the fort and go into town and buy civilian clothes. I headed straight to the dress section. I bought a beautiful outfit and had one of my friends fix my hair (because I didn’t know how to do anything besides a pony tail, bun, or leaving it down). I got earrings and a necklace and even put some perfume on. I look in the mirror—A sigh of relief– I feel like a woman again. I never knew the importance of how we dress, look, and act. I am a woman and need to dress, look, and act like one. Men are men and need to dress, look, and act like one. You don’t think it matters? I know it does.
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